Then and Now: The Sure Thing
Today is the the "Then and Now" blogfest, hosted by Armchair Squid, Suze, Moi & Nancy Mock. Squid & Suze were the instigators, and I thank them for letting me tag along. The idea of this here hop is to reflect on a movie that meant something to us at an earlier stage in our lives and explain how we view it differently now.
Before I jump all the way into my post, I want to apologize to visitors of my Insecure Writers post last week. I appreciate all of your lovely comments for Carol, and I'm sorry that I haven't been able to repay your visits yet. Y'see, right after I got that post up, I had to pack my bags and make a road trip for my daughter's college orientation. I know! I can't beleive she's leaving me either. Anywho, it's crazy what just a few days away from everything can do to my good intentions. But I still have them, and I'll see ya very, very soon.
Grown Ass Man post last fall, I've learned that Fun Guys aren't always so fun. So while I'm glad the Gibster helped remove the giant stick that was stuck up the leading lady's arse, I no longer imagine that the two of them will make the perfect couple forever and ever. I imagine his jokes growing old and her moving on to someone more mature and more serious, someone more like herself.
Not that he won't mature over time, but I guess what I don't believe in anymore is that people can or should change for each other. I'm not saying that two people have to be exactly alike to be compatible---the differences can be what keeps a relationship interesting into old age, and every successful relationship requires compromise and learning from each other, but I don't know...too much of the growth in The Sure Thing relationship seemed to depend on her becoming more like him and him becoming more like her instead of them each being who they were and appreciating what the other was. It makes for a great movie and is an entirely realistic scenario, but I don't think it has potential for long-term happiness. Does that make any sense?
Hope orientation went well!
Sounds like you and Mia had a blast! WOW... Times does fly, doesn't it?
I say this film YEARS ago, and I vaguely remember the dynamics, but if they are THAT opposite, I would have to agree, they relationship won't be long lasting.
Tossing It Out
Incompatibility is more evident as the flush of youth wears off. Our eyes clear and we realize we need a change. I could see that happening to this couple.
This is such a fun blog hop!
I would love to grow grey and withered and sucked like a little old prune with a guy who makes me laugh. That's all I will say about the Gibster.
As for your daughter, OMG!!!!!! (Enough exclamation points, for ya?) Babe, my heart is knit with yours. I can't *imagine* what I will feel like when I pack my daughter's bags and drive her to college. I may stay with her!
I think this is a wonderful post. I totally agree that fun guy is awesome as a fling or boyfriend, but not awesome as a life partner. Maybe we want to keep that stick up our asses. ;-)
I have found one can mellow somewhat toward another but full change never works.
Confession: The fun guy was my weakness (note - nothing to brag about in this camp).
I always thought this was the tale of the compromise/great merge you make to put traction on couplehood. Or is it what you give up to be in a relationship?
John Cusack surely got a lot of mileage back then, eh?
I guess I'd be as skeptical as you if the characters were in their 30s or older, but teens can be pretty malleable. I knew a few people (one very similar to Daphne Zuniga's character) who initially thought they knew exactly who they were, but eventually came into a more well-rounded equilibrium.
Nancy at Hungry Enough To Eat Six
I have a friend who was married to someone like Gibb and ended up divorcing him after 7 years. :( (and she's pretty laid back and funny, too!) So yeah I agree with you that this could be a problem, though I personally like men with a good sense of humor. :)
I'm already disappointed, because you're the second one I've visited and I'm noticing a pattern of not having seen a film yet!
I think people will naturally change over time, but I agree that differences are entirely healthy!
Ed - Empire's 5-star 500